The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men

There’sanotherthingthatcansteponpeople’stailsandputthekiboshon

sexualexploration:thethoughtthattheremightbesomethingwrongwithus

sexually.thatwe’renotnormal.Forasocietythatisasfascinatedwithsexaswe

are,wecertainlyhaveafunnywayofshowingit;it’slikewehavetoexpressas

muchdisapprovalasnecessarytoprovewe’renottoopervy,andthenwecanget

downtowatchingthepervyporn.We’llneverknowhowmanypeoplehave

beendeniedthesexlifeandidentitythatwouldhavemadethemhappybecause

theycouldn’tgetoverthisfence,buthere,too,we’reluckythatViolethas

steppedup.Herlight,yetinformative,tonemakesitseempossiblethatthissexy

funisaccessibletous,too,notjustthosepeople.Infact,intheworldofSan

Franciscosexed,thereisaneducationalmodelthatguidesuswhenwesitdown

towriteorstanduptoteach:It’scalledPLISSIT,anditiswhatsextherapistsare

taughttoofferyouifyoursexlifeissostuckorfraughtthatyourequiretheir

helpfulservices.TheyknowthatyouneedPermission,LimitedInformation,and

SpecificSuggestions(andonlypossiblyIntensiveTherapy),whichiswhyViolet

appearsheretoointheroleofyourpermission-giver,teacher,andcoachfor

fantasyexploration.Asshutdownasmanyofushavebeenaboutourdesirefor

wide-ranginginformationandexperience,itisavitalroleindeed.